Samu Saiz: “We must make good the point against Albacete”

first_imgGirona missed a golden opportunity last Sunday to place third in the table and continue to shorten the distance with the second classified, Zaragoza. In spite of this, the rojiblanco costumes are satisfied with the point harvested before the Mirandés in Anduva (1-1) because it allows them to continue with the good dynamics (they already accumulate six games without falling) and outside they have found more regularity because It is necessary to go back until January 19 to see the last setback at home, on day 24 against Tenerife (1-0). The sensations are good and morale increases in the face of an end of course that seems exciting.Pep Lluís Martí is satisfied with the response of the team in Anduva because he disrupted his starting block to give the alternative to players with less prominence in the last duels and although not all responded in the best way, in general they complied. And it is important to highlight Samu Saiz and Jonás Ramalho. Occupied the posts of Borja García, substitute, and Alcalá, sanctioned, respectively, and left good feelings. Saiz was happy for the work done, but could not hide that “we left annoyed because with the 0-1 I think we had the game on track. But we must continue working, be calm and make good point against Albacete in Montilivi. team is prepared and looking forward to doing so, “he started and then explained that “The wind, especially in the first part, did not let play. Although we endure well, strong.” Of course, it was not enough to maintain the result because in the second half, “in an isolated play they tied us.” The two goals of the match came from the penalty spot and the fact of not having managed to endure the 0-1 also left some bitter feeling in Ramalho: “I think we had the game under control and it was a shame that we missed two points. Although it is always positive to add visitors. We thought that the team that scored first was going to take all three points, but it wasn’t like that and now it’s time to prepare the duel against Albacete. “ Girona enjoys a rest day on Monday and it will not be until Tuesday when it returns to work, in La Vinya, to start preparing the game against Albacete. Martí will recover Pedro Alcalá for the axis of the defense, but he will not be able to count on Pablo Maffeo, That will cycle. Montilivi must remain a fortress (in 2020, Girona has not lost at home) to continue dreaming of direct ascent.last_img read more

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10 Obstacles to a Healthy Sex Life—and How to Overcome Them

first_imgPutting up with bad sexGood sex makes you feel good about yourself. Bad sex has the opposite effect. Simple, huh? You’d be surprised.As a sex therapist, I hear from lots of people who keep having sex even though the sex they’re having isn’t making them feel good about themselves. Most often, they’re just relieved that all the body mechanics are still working. They forget that sex is supposed to make you happy.Believe it or not, there are ways to turn bad sex into better sex—sex that actually leaves you feeling good. But for now, let’s just say the most important thing you can do to cultivate good sex is to say “no” to sex that’s just not worth your time or energy. (But watch out: Here’s what happens to your body when you stop having sex.)Having sex when you’re not readyToo many people have sex despite not being very turned on. They might be physically aroused, but that’s not the kind of arousal that counts. What counts is psychological arousal.When you’re psychologically aroused, you become more infantile, more in-the-moment. If all goes well, your IQ drops and you become a bit more immature. Good love-making recalls our attachment to the first people who held us, rocked us, and told us we were wonderful. Hey, who wouldn’t want to go back there? Most adults get to be infantile like that only when they’re having sex.Not being selfish enough during lovemakingWe’re all reminded these days to make sure we pleasure our partners in bed. But some people overdo that part. The result is a lot of very boring sex. Sexual generosity that’s not accompanied by a certain kind of selfishness just isn’t very erotic.Think about it: No hero in a romance novel ever rips off the heroine’s clothes and says, “Now tell me how you like to be touched.”No, he just consumes her, like a delicious pastry. There’s a kind of selfishness at the heart of most sexual passion.Ideally, you want to feel “selfishly connected” to your partner. That frees your partner to feel selfishly connected to you.Sex feels too much like workRemember, sex is infantile. To an infant, the word “work” has no meaning.Some people try too hard to be good lovers. They spend too much time thinking about technique. That’s the source of a lot of boring sex.Good technique is fine—and certainly better than bad technique. But technique has very little to do with great lovemaking.The best sex has no goal in mind. Don’t worry about trying to turn your partner on. Instead, just enjoy your partner. Selfishly, because it feels good. That’s usually the best recipe for great sex.Thinking that sex is all about the climaxA good sexual climax should be like dessert at the end of a good meal. Memorable, perhaps. But not really the reason you went out to dinner. The couples who have the best sex are the ones who don’t set orgasm as a goal.It’s usually best to focus on turn-ons instead. Then, after you’ve eaten and enjoyed everything on your plate, suddenly the dessert tray appears and you realize, “OMG, I forgot! There’s gonna be dessert!”Dessert is a sweet ending but by no means the whole show.Saving intimacy for the bedroomMany couples get aroused together only when they’re going to have sex, as if arousal was an unhappy state of mind that they’d rather avoid. But the happiest couples make a point to enjoy small moments of excitement even when sex isn’t on the menu.In sex therapy, we call this “simmering”: Taking a moment to enjoy feeling excited together, before leaving for work in the morning —or before falling asleep together at night. In a long-term relationship, it’s often the simmering more than the sex that keeps you erotically bonded.Criticizing yourself in bedWe all have limitations in bed. That’s normal. But it’s impossible to have good sex while feeling bad about your body or your skills.Most of us tend to be hard on ourselves. Our minds generate so-called “Automatic Negative Thoughts,” a term I like because its initials spell the word “ANTs.” ANTs can spoil lovemaking, just like real ants can spoil a picnic.The best way to handle negative ANTs is not to take them too seriously. As the Buddhists say, “let your thoughts come into your home, but don’t serve them tea.”Stop giving your ANTs so much attention, and they’ll often get bored and go away.Not standing your ground Many people feel that a good relationship is where two people “become one.” But that’s seldom a good idea. It often leads people to deny their differences, to force themselves to be what their partner wants, or to be unable to “stand their ground” when conflicts arise.That often leads people in relationships to feel anxious and overwhelmed, and to end up avoiding each other.The happiest relationships are where two people acknowledge one another as fundamentally different. Then each person in the couple can feel comfortable asserting his or her needs, even when those needs are potentially in conflict.In the short run, that can be challenging. But in the long run, it’s often actually more erotic.Not taking responsibility for your own needs Ultimately you’re the one responsible for your own arousal. Even for your own orgasms. Yes, I know this is different from most sex advice you’ve heard.Most sex experts suggest that you should take responsibility for each other’s sexual pleasure. The problem with that approach is that ultimately you end up just servicing each other—not so passionate.It’s a good rule to absolutely avoid doing anything in bed that you don’t like. Don’t just do it because it pleases your partner. Instead, find something else that you like to do, that your partner likes too.Whatever it is, make sure it makes both of you happy. Otherwise in the long run no one’s going to be happy.Believing you can program desire Desire comes and goes many times over the course of a long-term erotic relationship. During times when you don’t feel desire for your partner, the most important thing to remember is not to freak out.You can’t control desire any more than you can control the whims of a child. The secret to good sex in a long-lasting relationship is to sanctify the erotic moment by paying attention to it in all its variety, without judgment.Desire is seldom all-or-none. Sometimes you will feel highly aroused together, and sometimes your arousal may be no more than a faint whisper.Sometimes it’s a matter of nurturing that whisper until it’s a healthy shout.Sourcelast_img read more

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